I spoke to soon....

I have spent the last two days in hospital. Yep you guessed it, a miscarraige. I am doing ok emotionally - there are reasons for these things to happen, my baby wasn't healthy or it simply just wasn't the right time.
Physically my body feels like it has been run over by a truck. I am still in a little bit of pain and have to play the waiting game for the next week or so (not too good for someone who is extremely impatient!)
Two good things came out of this....
(1) I now know that I can conceive. It is something that I have been worried about for so long and it is wonderful to know that I am able to conceive a baby
(2) I saw the true value of my friend Sal. She is a midwife and I was able to call her when it all started and she gave me the best advice, then she got me into a single room at the hospital she works at in my home town. Sal had arranged with every nurse at the hospital to take good care of me and I got the best care.
I got to see her in her role at work and I was so proud of her and felt so lucky to know her. Her help was invaluable and I have no idea what I would have done without her there.
That I could see my friend for the extremely special person she is was the best thing to come out of all this.
She has two children to go home too and I never realised how hard she works at the hospital. I am determined to help her out more. I thought of maybe cooking her dinner one day a week that she is at work - I know I would love that. But I still need to get her something amazing for helping me out so much. Maybe a holiday....
Anyway, I am doing fine just really tired and a bit sore. I have to try and rest but there is washing to be done and work to be sorted out and I am finding it hard to just lie in bed. But I must....

9 comments:

Inoureyes said...

I am so sorry for your loss Maree. Its so good to hear you were looked after so well. When i had a threatened misscarriage i was sent to adult emergency because i was 15 weeks pregnant not 16! and they gave me a pregnancy test and sent me home. Thankfully we both survived it and i have my Ellie. I think appreciating your friends hard work and being there once a week is more than enough. Recognition is something that is hard to come by and goes a long way. Best wishes hun, Melissa.

Granny on the Web said...

Very sad news Maree Rose. you seem to be taking the right philosophical view on the experience. It must be so hard, when a baby is so wanted.
I wish you well dear girl, and hope you recover quickly. Also good wishes to Daddy in all this, he also must feel the loss.
Love Granny

rabbit and the duck said...

So sorry to read this post, take care of yourself and try to follow the doctor's orders (I understand how hard it is to stop and be still).
Take care, Shannon.

Stephanie said...

aah.
Such a hard thing.
On one hand we understand that something was wrong, and the pregnancy couldn't have lasted.
On the other, we have to say goodbye to dreams and visions of sugarplums dancing in our heads-- for the moment.
Take care of yourself well-ly.
Stephanie

The Old Dairy said...

I am so sad for your news Maree Rose, my heart goes out to you and your fine husband....What a bleesing to have such a good friend to be able to take control for you and help you....Get strong, and relax....blessings to you and hubby........Mandy

Through My Kitchen Window said...

I can relate to you about the feeling of being able to conceive. That was how I felt when I had my miscarriage. Nature had taken it's course and although very sad, at least I knew I was fertile. Being a mum would someday happen for me, as indeed it did, and I know it will for you too. Stay positive. It will happen when the time is right. Mariana.

Inoureyes said...

I hope you are ok Maree, missing you and wishing you well, Melissa

The Old Dairy said...

Just a quick hello to let you know you are in my thoughts and prays.....((((((HUGS))))))
Mandy

Granny on the Web said...

I'm back to say still wishing you well, and hope to read a post from you soon.

Love Granny

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

I spoke to soon....

I have spent the last two days in hospital. Yep you guessed it, a miscarraige. I am doing ok emotionally - there are reasons for these things to happen, my baby wasn't healthy or it simply just wasn't the right time.
Physically my body feels like it has been run over by a truck. I am still in a little bit of pain and have to play the waiting game for the next week or so (not too good for someone who is extremely impatient!)
Two good things came out of this....
(1) I now know that I can conceive. It is something that I have been worried about for so long and it is wonderful to know that I am able to conceive a baby
(2) I saw the true value of my friend Sal. She is a midwife and I was able to call her when it all started and she gave me the best advice, then she got me into a single room at the hospital she works at in my home town. Sal had arranged with every nurse at the hospital to take good care of me and I got the best care.
I got to see her in her role at work and I was so proud of her and felt so lucky to know her. Her help was invaluable and I have no idea what I would have done without her there.
That I could see my friend for the extremely special person she is was the best thing to come out of all this.
She has two children to go home too and I never realised how hard she works at the hospital. I am determined to help her out more. I thought of maybe cooking her dinner one day a week that she is at work - I know I would love that. But I still need to get her something amazing for helping me out so much. Maybe a holiday....
Anyway, I am doing fine just really tired and a bit sore. I have to try and rest but there is washing to be done and work to be sorted out and I am finding it hard to just lie in bed. But I must....

9 comments:

Inoureyes said...

I am so sorry for your loss Maree. Its so good to hear you were looked after so well. When i had a threatened misscarriage i was sent to adult emergency because i was 15 weeks pregnant not 16! and they gave me a pregnancy test and sent me home. Thankfully we both survived it and i have my Ellie. I think appreciating your friends hard work and being there once a week is more than enough. Recognition is something that is hard to come by and goes a long way. Best wishes hun, Melissa.

Granny on the Web said...

Very sad news Maree Rose. you seem to be taking the right philosophical view on the experience. It must be so hard, when a baby is so wanted.
I wish you well dear girl, and hope you recover quickly. Also good wishes to Daddy in all this, he also must feel the loss.
Love Granny

rabbit and the duck said...

So sorry to read this post, take care of yourself and try to follow the doctor's orders (I understand how hard it is to stop and be still).
Take care, Shannon.

Stephanie said...

aah.
Such a hard thing.
On one hand we understand that something was wrong, and the pregnancy couldn't have lasted.
On the other, we have to say goodbye to dreams and visions of sugarplums dancing in our heads-- for the moment.
Take care of yourself well-ly.
Stephanie

The Old Dairy said...

I am so sad for your news Maree Rose, my heart goes out to you and your fine husband....What a bleesing to have such a good friend to be able to take control for you and help you....Get strong, and relax....blessings to you and hubby........Mandy

Through My Kitchen Window said...

I can relate to you about the feeling of being able to conceive. That was how I felt when I had my miscarriage. Nature had taken it's course and although very sad, at least I knew I was fertile. Being a mum would someday happen for me, as indeed it did, and I know it will for you too. Stay positive. It will happen when the time is right. Mariana.

Inoureyes said...

I hope you are ok Maree, missing you and wishing you well, Melissa

The Old Dairy said...

Just a quick hello to let you know you are in my thoughts and prays.....((((((HUGS))))))
Mandy

Granny on the Web said...

I'm back to say still wishing you well, and hope to read a post from you soon.

Love Granny